This is really interesting, especially the part about how unsafe it can be to admit mistakes or wrongdoing. It shouldn't be on the least privileged, most harmed people to say, "It's ok, you're safe to say this to us," but it really ends up being.
It's been so interesting to discover the consequences of failing to connect relational integrity. People can get away with it for a while under certain circumstances, but then it seems we all meet some threshold where we can't get away with it anymore. We can't just dissociate from that which discomfits us; doing so makes us fragile in times of unexpected challenges and conflict; we end up finding out we have to practice co-creating peace between beings and restoring communications and a litmus for respectfulness -- in some way that is most safe and supportive of all bodies. Even with those others or circumstances we hoped to never have to confront, it's best to know what we'll do if it turns out we needs must confront them. We like approaches that include attuned listening, patience and kindness.
This is really interesting, especially the part about how unsafe it can be to admit mistakes or wrongdoing. It shouldn't be on the least privileged, most harmed people to say, "It's ok, you're safe to say this to us," but it really ends up being.
It's been so interesting to discover the consequences of failing to connect relational integrity. People can get away with it for a while under certain circumstances, but then it seems we all meet some threshold where we can't get away with it anymore. We can't just dissociate from that which discomfits us; doing so makes us fragile in times of unexpected challenges and conflict; we end up finding out we have to practice co-creating peace between beings and restoring communications and a litmus for respectfulness -- in some way that is most safe and supportive of all bodies. Even with those others or circumstances we hoped to never have to confront, it's best to know what we'll do if it turns out we needs must confront them. We like approaches that include attuned listening, patience and kindness.